furthermore

I was driving to a meeting on Sunday morning & Vienna Teng's song "City Hall" came on the radio about the day she & her girlfriend drove up from LA to get married in SF. It is beautiful & it made me cry. Listen to it. Pray about it.

I love being married & everything about it! I can't imagine a world in which Andy & I wouldn't be allowed to get married. I want all of my friends to have that choice!

lyrics:

me and my baby on a february holiday 

'cause we got the news 

yeah, we got the news 

500 miles and we're gonna make it all the way 

we've got nothing to lose 

we've got nothing to lose 

it's been 10 years waiting 

but it's better late than the never 

we've been told before 

we can't wait one minute more 

oh, me and my baby driving down 

to a hilly seaside town in the rainfall 

oh, me and my baby stand in line 

you've never seen a sight so fine 

as the love that's gonna shine 

at city hall 

me and my baby've been through 

a lot of good and bad 

learned to kiss the sky 

made our momma's cry 

I've seen a lot of friends 

after giving it all they had 

lay down and die 

lay down and die 

10 years into it 

here's our window 

at the vegas drive-thru chapel 

it ain't too much 

for 'em all to handle 

oh, me and my baby driving down 

to a hilly seaside town in the rainfall 

oh, me and my baby stand in line 

you've never seen a sight so fine 

as the love that's gonna shine 

at city hall 

outside, they're handing out 

donuts and pizza pies 

for the folks in pairs in the folding chairs 

my baby's lookin' so damned pretty 

with those anxious eyes 

rain-speckled hair 

and my ring to wear 

10 years waiting for this moment of fate 

when we say the words and sign our names 

if they take it away again someday 

this beautiful thing won't change 

oh, me and my baby driving down 

to a hilly seaside town in the rainfall 

oh, me and my baby stand in line 

you've never seen a sight so fine 

as the love that's gonna shine 

oh, me and my baby driving down 

to a hilly seaside town in the rainfall 

oh, me and my baby stand in line 

you've never seen a sight so fine 

as the love that's gonna shine 

at city hall 

marriage

Yesterday CA courts upheld the ban on same-sex marriage. Sucky.  

Yes, I am an active, practicing Catholic. Yes, I'm even a minister in the Catholic church. I also wholeheartedly support gay marriage. I fail to see how allowing other people to experience the beauty & challenge that is marriage some how takes away from it.  I think anytime people want to make a public commitment to loving each other we should support it.

I heard someone suggest that if the whole debate is about the use of the word marriage we could just take the word out of legal usage. That way under the law all couples, gay or straight, can be enter into unions but marriage would just be used for everyday language, religious ceremonies, etc.  I don't know if this would satisfy everyone but I would gladly give up the legal word marriage if that meant we could all be equal. If gay couples can't be "married" under the law perhaps we straights shouldn't get to use the word anymore either.

Of course then there's the trouble that the Catholic Church isn't going to marry gay couples any time soon. I think we're going to find ourself on the wrong side of this issue.

are you kidding me????

I am furious! I just saw a media piece debating whether or not this ant-domestic violence ad with Keira Knightly in it is too violent or shocking. That is a completely senseless debate! How dare someone in the media suggest that we shouldn't show an act of violence in order to bring awareness about violence against women???  The media is filled with those same images, & much more grotesque ones, simply for entertainment purposes. 

Perhaps an ad that is shocking & is followed by actual information & resources about domestic violence will make someone actually care about it rather than just callously viewing it as a thrilling addition to another plot line that glories & glamorizes violence.

Outrage, sheer outrage.